At one time or another, most of us have had daydreams about winning the lottery, achieved great fame, or having the perfect partner and live happily ever after. We usually visualize our imagined future happiness as something that will come unexpectedly, "surprise out of the blue" and.
In reality, most luck is the product of lots of hard work and creative initiative. If we wait only for the good things into your lap without any effort come from our side, we are ourselvesFor disappointment. It is up to us, the foundation that the door for the opportunity to come into our lives, will not open.
A Persian saying advises: "Go and wake your luck." To do this, we need to wake up and start taking action toward our goals. For, like a Yiddish proverb warns: "If you want your dreams come true, do not oversleep." It takes initiative, energy and effort from our side to start to happen the process of preparing the way for good things.
AfterAnthony Robbins: "It is the moment of your choices, your destiny is shaped." This means that the unfolding of our destiny is not a passive process, but rather that every day we actively influence what is happening in our lives. The good news is that if we are dissatisfied with our lives, we are always new opportunities and create a life that reflects more accurately who we are now and what we want to be.
The same principles are in every aspect of your life, including trueYour marriage. The happy marriage does not just happen. It requires consistent efforts and initiatives to solve marriage problems and reduce conflict.
If you have a marriage with quality emotional intimacy, then you have to deepen measures to take your feelings of connection with your spouse. Sometime in the future it might appear to family and friends that you have very "lucky" to such a loving marriage. But you know, the hardWork behind the scenes that needs to be "happiness" in marriage generally.
How to Be "Lucky" in your marriage
Here are seven tips to follow:
1. Rather than blame your spouse and focus on how he or she should change to focus on a better partner to change itself to the kind of ideal partner would have liked.
2. Ask a question still to notice your spouse's good qualities and what you like and admire him.Enter your spouse looking for a lot of praise, and for ways to give compliments to others.
3. Express your appreciation and love, often orally, in writing (notes and maps), and with hugs and physical affection. Be sure that you do not hold hands, hug and kiss only if you can the expectations of sex, or your partner until finally tries to avoid physical contact with you.
4. Record important dates such as birthdays and anniversaries in your dailyPlanners at the first of each calendar year. Make sure the special occasions for a few weeks ahead of time as well as the special day, so you'd have time to make to a gift or buy dinner reservations to list. Be the spouse, who never forgets a special occasion. They are still many more good win brownie points for this!
5. Create a "story" about your marriage, how you met your spouse how much you love each other, what were your adventures, etc.Example, you could tell the story, if You Met Your Prince Charming at the wedding of a second-degree, right after you slipped and fell in front of everybody and he helped you to your feet.
One could say that he thought that was a rare happening for you, but little did he know about your likes and cumbersome when you're married, he would help you in soils around the world ... Make the story light and humorous and have fun by through the years.
6.Learn what to overlook. You can not make a big deal out of everything that happens. Choose your disagreement, and to carefully distinguish the unimportant, or "little things" from the important "big stuff." Constant conflict extinguishes the fire of passion.
7. Never, never, never to your spouse names or zoom out to him or her. It is impossible to love the feeling of someone who has just called you a "fool or worse. Bite you leave the room, the tongue, to go outside fora few minutes to do, what you need to do to stop himself. Find out how to agree to call without a name, or use of sarcasm or ridicule.
His "luck" in the marital relationship requires hard work, but the payoff is huge.
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