Communication and Marriage Relationships - Preventing Arguments in Your Marriage Relationship

Do you know how easy to start arguments in a marriage relationship? Sometimes, communication with your partner feels like trying to navigate through rapids. To avoid reading, an easy way to arguments in your marriage relationship.

Picture this scene:

Dean and Torry in the supermarket when she mentioned that she thought about it, go to her parents' visit over the weekend. She asked Dean if he wanted to go with heror stay home. She did not know that she had hit a raw nerve with Dean. He replied: "Why is it that we never go to my parents' house, but we always go to your parents?"

Torry gets angry and defensive. She raises her voice and says: "We see your family all the time. We did not go into the house of your parents, your parents are bound with us all the time. They are still with your mother's apron strings." Soon Dean and Torry have been embroiled in a heatedBattle.

The problem

In this scenario, there are several basic communication errors, Dean, and Torry make. First, Dean used the words "never" and "always". This represents Torry on the defensive, and she feels that they show how the "never" and "always" statement is false. This moves the focus from the fundamental issue.

Secondly Torry feel attacked and respond by shouting. Third, they attack Dean, and trivialized it with the words: "You're not tied to your motherApron. "This statement does Dean on the defensive. Now it will be difficult, the core of the problem and a solution of the problem.

The solution

There may be several solutions to this problem. For example, Dean could have an "I-used statement" to explain the problem. With "I") statements, "you say, fill in something like" I feel ______ (in the blank with a feeling that if you________ (the action, do your partner's). This argument can be avoided if Deanwould have only a "I used statement," in an attempt to explain his feelings.