Marriage Counselor: with Anger

Anger can be very destructive in a relationship. It can also have negative consequences, whether they are displaced or traded. A marriage counselor must seek effective methods to deal with the issue of anger for couples in their efforts to develop a loving, supportive and lasting relationship.

When anger is expressed, it can leave the person at the other end of the feeling traumatized, even if there is no physical violence. An interestingPhenomenon that shows the person who feels the anger were also attacked. This is due to the functioning of the unconscious, provides that all actions directed against itself. Therefore, if we cause pain to our partners, we also do us harm themselves. It then follows that the anger has a definite negative impact on a relationship. Partners simply have a hard time about intimacy because their security is threatened.

Suppressed anger can be just as devastatingAnger expression. Often, repression may lead to an empty marriage, especially if one is anger turned inward and manifests itself as depression. One example will serve to illustrate this point. Suppose that a person had an older sibling is very rebellious and hostile in his youth and as a result was punished more severely. Punishing the individual associated with expression of anger and therefore suppressed anger and hid them from theirParents and later in life, from her spouse.

The same individual ended up in the role of the "good child" in childhood, who never raised a fuss about nothing. These served a purpose in childhood, but later in life, this adjustment has been very damaging to a marriage. The constant hiding of anger extended to a person feeling that they must suppress their sexuality and other forms of excitement, because this increased activity energy and feltthreatening.

The internalization of anger in the depression of the individual partners left feeling dissatisfied and looking for fulfillment of desires outside of marriage. A marriage counselor could do, again, to express the suppressed individual in touch with their anger and pain and in a meaningful way to provide a supportive environment to help.

It is often difficult for people to deal with their hidden anger and pain. For most of us, we have learned that during childhoodAnger is a bad thing, and we were punished or criticized. We were with the option to express them and suffer the consequences or her to the house where it does not hurt us or someone else, keep left. But when we decided to dampen our anger, we chose dampen our ability to love, because love and anger are two sides of same coin. They are both for our vital energy or life force are related. When we feel love is our life force grows, and when we rage, we feelExperiences of our life energy as truncated or stunted.

Anger is therefore an essential expression of our vital energy, and if we suppress them, we become depressed or to live a pale, muted existence. However, we are responsible to ourselves and hurt others if we act on our anger. Containment is a process that allows us to our anger without hurting our loved ones release. A therapist can help to unleash a person's anger in small, controlled amounts in a secure environment and help them backgive back to its original, positive, life-form.