Recently, someone told us that he wants to marry and grow
old with his girlfriend. But to his disappointment, she said
his true love is unconditional, without expectation
and he would be happy just to be with her, without
no promises. He said he did not really think it
love it because they do not enter into a legal, committed,
monogamous relationship.
He wants a "permanent" commitment and his girlfriend
will notconditions and expectations.
True, unconditional love includes no expectations. No
expectations of your mate to be who you want them
to be. No expectations of the relationship lasting “forever.”
No expectations of ownership. No expectations if you two
grow apart. No expectations if one of you loses interest in
sex.
We agree with his girlfriend. Unconditional love, which
is the highest form of love, involves loving someone as
they are and not want anything in return for love.
Money. No exclusivity. Not a contract. Nothing.
When it is completely without demands and expectations
approached his girlfriend in this way, he would want to do what
Best for them, not just what he wants.
Granted, we need to look at this from his perspective
too. What he is afraid if he does not have a permanent
Commitment from his girlfriend? He is concerned about
to lose it,perhaps more than being alone? He is concerned about
Finance and also about those who care for him in old age?
He must recognize that he will be better if the relationship
does not last forever, and that the only real, lasting love is
Self-love.
Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo
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