At the beginning of my career, on a Friday morning a couple came to me with a whole pack of marital problems to name names, shouting at each other without each other. A real mess. (I do not really know how to end a week of it.) According to the description of the woman (who was complaining that he commanded them to, arrogant to other people that embarrassed her, and eat, as there's no tomorrow "I did not dream that he was suffering from depression.
However, it turned out that theseare all signs of depression in men, and after we worked on his depression turned to the things for the better.
Depression is a major factor in many marital problems and it is important to recognize what the cause of depression so that you resolve to overcome the situation, depression, and begin your marriage.
In this article I werde 3 most common causes of depression so far identified (as by Dr. David M. Burns).
1. Success = value. People tend to equate their self-esteemValue and importance of their success in business, personal relationships or academic achievement. On the surface, seems true, and I must admit that it won some very positive benefits, if you live with such an assumption. It motivates us to work better, improve our social skills and study harder.
The truth is, but it is simply not true. It's a lie! They have self-esteem, because ... You are you, man. Even a person who is sick and lying in bedis invaluable and precious
Not only is it not true, but, although in the "short period" can help you in the long run can ruin you.
For example, how many people do you know that their jobs lost due to the current financial crunch (2009), that has nothing to do with them, and feel extremely depressed and now have marital problems. Well, if you do not know anyone like this, unfortunately there are many of them How did this happen? All this happened because theybought, "in" this failed and false belief that your faith is worth a derivative of your success?
2. Perfect or Bust. Others believe a similar defect, and that the causes of depression and marriage problems, therefore the conviction that only perfection is success. Less than perfect is failure.
If a successful person always succeeds and never fails? "
A very interesting fact has recently been noted. Wilt Chamberlain and Michael Jordan, twothe greatest NBA player of all time, had an average of 30.1% lifetime. This means that these two wonderful players put the ball in the basket, 69.1% of the time! Or, to translate it into practical terms that they have missed 7 of 9 shots!
So many people suffer because of this misconception. If you have problems with marriage, because this kind of thinking, then face it and begin the world as it is imperfect in reality.
3. "It should ..." Think.This means that a person has a preconceived idea of what should be the world. "If I become a giving person then the people should reciprocate and give me." "People should pay more attention." etc.
The harsh reality of the world, however, is that not all people think the same way as you. Therefore, people locked up in such thinking depressed or irritable.
Including many marital problems lurking depression. Identify the cause of depression begin to work on it, andSolve several of these problems, the thoughts were not fixable.
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