Marriage - Mine, yours and ours

Would be in a perfect world, marriage is a complete unification of the heart, mind, soul and bank accounts. Unfortunately, even though you are husband and wife, often end up in the fact that we are our assets long before we see the inside of a divorce court.

The most common area of our marriage where we are financially, as a rule on the division of things. Money can the world go round but it can make a marriage a mess. This problem manifests itself differently dependingregarding the financial situation itself

For example. In one family an income where the husband works and the woman takes care of the house, all too often, until the man hands the fund with a pipette, so that his wife an allowance. The woman wears it because they do not bear it, the house financially. She hates every minute of it, but do not feel she has no choice.

Then there is the situation where both husband and wife have their own jobs. When this happens,a war, "It is my money and what I can do what I want with it." Ultimately, what has happened in these scenarios that the woman go out and buy something extravagant, just to her husband that she can not show because it has its "own" money. In most cases the man is so bad, because he regarded this as an attack on his masculinity. He is not the only source of income provider and its role in the family is not so important. This is also a way for women to assert their independence. TheQuestion you must ask is, since when do we have in a marriage must be independent? What happened with that accession of souls?

But the problem with me, yours and ours, not only with money at an end. It goes far beyond have almost everything we do. Many times in a marriage, we bring into it the things that we advance as a stereo system, or maybe even something as large as had our own car. Many times, even after the marriage vows, the car is still myand not ours. Often we find ourselves asking our spouse if we can borrow the car keys, or use their home stereo.

Why is this so? The truth is, it would take a team of head shrinking and answer a thousand years on this question. Maybe you do not want to give up the things we have. Perhaps we are afraid that, if we lose everything we share our identity. Perhaps we are just jealous and insecure, because our spouse brought "more" in the marriage. Maybe we need to feel superior tobecause we are the one that brought more into the marriage. With all the marriage arrangements made by the day, it's certainly something to consider.

What are the reasons for me yours and ours syndrome is probably not soon go away if we can not go into a marriage and truly become one with our spouse. The chances of this thin in the near future or to none.

Just ask the lawyers.